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I am a solitary shopper.
I learned early on that shopping with friends doesn’t work out for me. I would come home and model new clothing all alone in my bedroom when I was a teenager. I would be appalled at what my friends had talked me into buying.
I couldn’t believe what I was seeing in the mirror.
I knew I’d never wear the jeans with the butterflies crawling all over my butt. A red shirt with rhinestones on the cuffs. What the heck? It would all go back to the store.
I’d return all the merchandise and replace it with things that didn’t make my eyes water.
I earned my own spending money from the age of 12. I had a paper route because I didn’t like to baby sit. Babies terrified me. The few times I got talked into it……….I ended up sitting with a little boy that would scream “No, you She Devil!” every time I came near him. A one year old girl that banged her head against the crib………..her mother said it was her way of pacifying herself.
I told that mother to buy the kid a helmet. I never went back.
I got myself a paper route.
My mother gave up hope that I’d ever give her grandchildren.
But, there was a pair of ladies that I did like to shop with. Oh, I wouldn’t actually buy anything when I was with them. I was there for the show. I tagged along for the entertainment.
I was sixteen and got a job at a local take out restaurant. Christmas was coming. My mother all of a sudden got interested in my work schedule.
“Write down on the calendar when you have to work.” she told me. So, I did. I knew what she was up to. I had just gotten my driver’s license. My mother and her best friend didn’t drive. I was going to be their chauffeur.
“I’d like to book you for Wednesday and Thursday nights this week. To drive me and Rose to Grants. We want to do our Christmas shopping without men breathing down our necks. Men hurry us. You won’t hurry us………….will you? I am your mother after all. I gave birth to you. You weighed ten pounds. It hurt like hell……………so I figure you can take us shopping and have some patience. If we get it all done on Wednesday ………..we’ll take you to the new Chinese restaurant for dinner on Thursday.”
My mother always could make me laugh like hell. Especially, when she wasn’t trying to be funny.
“I can take you two shopping I suppose. Is this where I hear about your stretch marks? What was it, Ma? Eighty…………ninety hours of labor? Really. I don’t need the dramatic stories. I am perfectly happy to drive you and Rose to Grants. And, I won’t rush you. ” I added as she glared at me.
You would have given them a ride too. Rose and my mother were like hanging out with Laurel and Hardy. Abbott and Costello. The closest comparison is probably Lucy and Ethel.
My mother Ellie was a statuesque beauty. 5’9″ tall with amazing dark auburn hair. Big green eyes. A quick smile. A laugh she liked to share. She carried herself like a monarch.
Rose was like a tiny little bird. She might be only four and a half feet tall…………but she added another foot in height with her teased black hair. She had the softest most melodic voice. Cats would run to her and rub against her ankles when she spoke. She was tiny so she always wore high heels. No matter what she was doing…………..she clicked around on stiletto heels.
I asked her once at a family picnic…………….”Don’t your feet hurt in those shoes?” She answered “I haven’t felt my feet since 1948, honey. Go and get me some more deviled eggs.”
So, on Wednesday night I pulled into Grants parking lot. I took up two spaces. I didn’t mean to, but that’s how bad I was at parking when I first started driving. The ladies exited the station wagon clutching their purses.
They each had a glint in their eyes.
Grants had started out as a good old fashioned Five And Dime store. It still housed the original luncheonette with it’s red leather stools. All the waitresses were original too. Original hair nets. The store was becoming a “department store”. The line of merchandise expanded every year.
This was an old fashioned store. The kind you’d like to go back and revisit if you could. Things weren’t displayed on shelves. Everything was laid out on big huge tables with shelving on the sides. It smelled like popcorn. The front windows were hidden by stacks of things for sale and by bucking bronco kiddie rides that ran on a nickle.
The two women always started out sharing a cart. I pushed. I was the purse guard. They each had a little notebook. They flipped them open. Names were listed with amounts next to the name. They were on a budget. They used only cash so this was important.
Each of these women were in possession of at least one of those new fangled credit cards. But, their men had them terrified of actually using them.
I witnessed my father giving my mother her credit card. We sat at the little maple table in our kitchen. He pushed the red and white square of plastic towards her. But, he wouldn’t take his big square finger off of it until he’d given her the “Evils of Credit Cards” speech.
This speech included phrases like …………..fifteen percent interest…………only in an emergency………….selling my soul to the devil……………if you use this I will burst into flames. No matter where I am. I’ll be nothing but a small pile of ashes.
Yes, my father could get quite dramatic.
So, these two ladies jotted down prices. They added tax. Because they were going to pay with cash at that register.
They filled that cart in a half an hour. They were completely done with their shopping that fast.
Oh, I wasn’t fooled. Things had just started.
This is when they would continue looking around. Just because it felt good to get out of the house. Just because the store was so brimming and shining for Christmas. Because they had a chauffeur that wasn’t rushing them.
This is where they would start to change their minds. Things would get put back. Then they’d return to pick that item up again.
I talked them out of the velour shirts. Velour was brand new. I know how enticing it is to touch. I know how velvet like it is. But, I knew the men in my life were not going to wear almost velvet shirts. I told them their original choice of flash lights was a much better bet.
That’s when we picked up the store detective.
My two women stiffened up. They whispered to each other.
They were being followed.
This female store detective was an original too. She’d been hired right along with the now gray haired waitresses. I remembered her from when I was a little girl being pushed around this store in a cart. I would be covered with purses and coats and boxes of Whitman’s Samplers. Even I knew her face.
I turned to the store detective. I was all grown up now. I had a driver’s license. I felt pretty protective of my women.
“They’re not stealing you know. They’re just indecisive. On a budget. They’re going to change their minds ten times because…………..I’m not rushing them. We’re going to take a break in about an hour. Meet you over in the luncheonette? We’ll buy you a grilled cheese and tomato soup.” I said to the woman skulking behind the display of bride dolls.
The woman grinned at me.
“Look at you all grown up! Meet you three ladies in the luncheonette in an hour. Tell your mother that the red light specials are about to start up.” she said as she left to skulk around someone else.
A red light on a tall pole lit up and spun around like the beacon on an ambulance. A voice came over a loudspeaker.
“Hello, Christmas shoppers! For ten minutes only……………….our red light special is in the Men’s Department. Fruit of the Loom heavy sweatpants for all the men in your life! Keep your boys warm when they’re out shoveling snow this winter! Only $1.00 a pair for the next ten minutes!” said the disembodied voice on the loudspeaker.
Mom and Rose ran for the red light.
I walked.
I came around the corner and witnessed my mother and a big lady wearing a men’s flannel shirt in a tug of war. Between them was a stack of men’s sweatpants sized X-tra large.
The competition was on.
“Mom. Mom? Mom!!! What do you need with eight pairs of grey sweatpants. Whatever they are. One pair is enough. Let go. Step away. Let the lady have a pair of sweatpants, Ma!” I shouted in my mother’s ear.
Boy, she could get competitive over the weirdest stuff.
My father got four pairs of XL gray sweatpants under the tree that year. My father was not an extra large man………………….
Two teeny bopper cashiers were standing under the red light with their price guns at the ready. Ready to mark the Fruit of the Loom down to a mere dollar. By the time the crowd of women calmed down……………..those two little pimply faced girls were shaking.
I loved this stuff! You know you would have too!
The red light special lamp was on wheels. The three of us watched it being wheeled towards the toy section. I was the youngest in the family. There were no grandchildren yet. These women should have lost interest when the red light went towards the toys.
But, no!
“Good evening shoppers! Santa needs a little help this year! Do you know a little girl that would love to find an exclusive 1973 Deluxe Bride Doll under the tree? We know you do!” said the announcement as the red light started swirling and making it’s siren noise.
My mother, Rose and the shopping cart barrelled towards the toy section.
“Ma! Rose! You do not have any little girls on your list! Do you just like being in the middle of a riot?” I called after them.
I guess they did.
I stood back as a crowd of women terrorized the same two sales associates holding pricing guns.
Mom and Rose both came out of the heap holding one bride doll apiece.
The gorgeous dolls were marked down to $3.00 a piece. I remembered back to other trips to stores like this when I was a tiny little girl. How many times did I beg for a bride doll? How many times did I get turned down?
My mother looked up at me. The frenzy left her eyes.
“What in the hell are we going to do with these dolls?” she asked Rose.
“I don’t frigging know!” yelled Rose. “I just ran and grabbed one because you did!”
I took the dolls out of their hands and put them on the bottom of the cart.
“I’ll pay for those.” I said. “The Marines are collecting toys outside. I really, really liked the looks of those Marines. Maybe that’s what I’ll ask Santa for this year.”
“A doll?” my mother asked.
“Jesus, Ellie! Darlene doesn’t want a doll. She wants herself a Marine!” crowed Rose with a big grin on her face.
“Oh, dear God.” whispered my mother.
You see why I loved shopping with these two?
I glanced at my watch.
“Mom. Food. Now. Feed me. Grilled cheese. Tomato soup. Pepsi. Now. Over there! There’s a table free. And, our date is waiting.” I said as I pushed the two women over to the luncheonette railing. I parked the cart and greeted the store detective.
Mom and Rose glared at me. I had invited their nemesis to eat with us? The woman that had been following them around for ten years? This woman had been skulking behind displays for so many years…………….my mother knew the squeak of her sneakers.
The four of us ordered and ate and surprisingly………….had a great old time.
“All these years………..I have never ever thought you were thieves. I’m sorry I made you uncomfortable. But, I miss my sisters. I have four of them………….and you two are just so much fun! The way you argue and put things back. And, fight over something when it’s the last one. I guess I just wanted to be shopping with you. And, then? Your daughter invites me to eat with you! This is great! Dinner is on me.” the store detective said.
We ate and then gave the store detective a hug and said “See you next year!”
We went to check out. Rose paid for her stuff and had a dollar to spare. My mother loaded up the counter. She was two dollars short. She stiffened up and breathed funny.
“Oh, my God! I’m going to have to use my charge card! Your poor father. He’s going to self combust! This is totally going to ruin his Christmas.” she whispered to me.
I opened my purse and handed her the money she needed.
“You have money? Why didn’t you do any Christmas shopping then?” she asked me.
“I shop alone.” I replied.
I paid for the two beautiful bride dolls. And, we headed out the door.
“You ladies load up the car while I go and talk with the Marines.” I said as I walked away.
Both of those young Marines were very nice by the way. They both asked for my phone number. They both lost interest as soon as I told them my Daddy was a Marine. WWII. Drill Sergeant.
“Darlene! You are sixteen years old. Do not bring home a Marine for Christmas!” my mother said loud enough for the boys in uniform to hear.
What a wing man. Thanks Ma!
“Ellie!” Rose hissed. “Get in the car! Darlene likes to shop alone!”
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