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A Columbus Street Christmas was wonderful. My parents didn’t go overboard. Some lights decorated the bushes outside of the house. The tree was put up in the living room about ten days before the holiday. We all took part in decorating it. The village was placed under the tree. The manger and all it’s inhabitants went near the fireplace. Everything had it’s place.
My mother and I baked. My father and my brothers ate. We visited with extended family.
Our letters to Santa weren’t long. We inquired after his health. We hoped the reindeer were all set to fly. We were encouraged to add a paragraph listing a few things that we’d like Santa to leave under the tree. Puppies and ponies were discouraged.
My list usually consisted of dolls and toy kitchen equipment. Santa never let me down.
All I wanted for Christmas one year was a Kissy Doll. She was a big blonde toddler that wore a red gingham dress and red patent leather shoes. She had short course blonde hair and a sweet expression. You pressed her arms together and she pursed her lips for a kiss. Yeah, I know. What? But, for some reason she caught my heart and my imagination.
Christmas morning brought us a living room overflowing with gifts. They were piled high. I ignored the blue and white girl’s bike against the wall. I had little interest in the little black and white television set showing “It’s A Wonderful Life” in the corner with my name on it.
I flew across the room in search of Kissy. And, there she sat in a state of the art baby carriage. The new red and white carriage was a miniature version of the real thing. It was built to last. And, the doll of my dreams sat inside waiting to be loved.
My father worked for Pratt and Whitney. He told me years later that he had gotten a substantial bonus right before Christmas that year. The company paid employees for good ideas.
My father had stopped at a rest stop on the Mass Pike. He had dried his hands for the first time with a machine. You pressed a button and hot air dried you hands. No more need for paper towels. Or, those disgusting metal contraptions that had a roll of real toweling that you pulled in a perpetual circle of dirty flannel. He’d rather wipe his hands on his pants Daddy said.
He wrote a suggestion and dropped it into the box at work. The company stopped buying paper towels. The company installed machines that blew hot air in the bathrooms. They cut my father a check for 1% of the first year’s savings.
It was the biggest check anyone had ever handed him.
He must have called Santa and told him to pull out all the stops. I should have asked for a pony that year. But, how was I to know?
I had a large collection of dolls. But, only a few of them were my babies. My collection of doll paraphernalia had taken over the house. That’s when my father lost his garage workshop. The “dollhouse” was born in the garage to house me, my babies and my toy kitchen. Daddy didn’t seem to mind.
Kissy and I were inseparable. If my own children ever say out loud that they had a wonderful mother……………they have Kissy to thank. I fed and burped her. I sang to her. Kissy loved being read to. She loved bathing with me in the tub. She repaid me with lots and lots of kisses.
Kissy and I strolled Columbus Street together. She sat up in her doll carriage so she wouldn’t miss anything. I was her mother so I pretended to be grown up.
I stopped and waved to all the neighborhood ladies at their kitchen windows. The front doors would fly open and they’d ask to see my baby. A few even asked to hold her. I was asked in for tea just like a real grown up. Sometimes I accepted.
I’ll never forget those grown women that played little girl games with me. They treated me as one of their own. I often left with gifts for Kissy. Hand crocheted caps and sweaters were made just for her. Baby blankets were dug out of cedar chests and tucked in around my doll.
I realize now as an adult…………..that it was the mother of boys………….that fell in love with me and my Kissy.
My mother made phone calls upon my arrival home. “Are you sure you want to give her that hand crocheted blanket? It’s gorgeous. She’ll take good care of it. But, are you sure?” she was heard to say.
They always meant it. They were sure.
We went to a big church picnic one day. It was at my grandparent’s parish out in Glastonbury. The Protestants made pretty good potato salad I thought. Their hotdogs tasted the same as Catholic hotdogs. But, I must say that us Catholics made much better Strawberry Shortcake. St. Bridget’s had their very own Strawberry Festival after all. It ranked right up there with the holy days.
We were almost home from that picnic when I realized I had forgotten Kissy. She was still sitting at a picnic table alongside the small white church with it’s steeple. I started wailing in the back seat.
My mother turned towards the back seat to find out what the heck was the matter with me. I hiccuped and finally got it out. What kind of mother was I? I had gotten in the car and had totally forgotten my baby. I had left Kissy behind.
I was horrified. I was bereft. I questioned my calling in life.
We were almost home.
“Turn this car around, Ralph.” my mother ordered.
“Oh, dear God. Ellie. We’re almost home. Someone will have picked up her doll. We’ll call my parents. We’ll pick it up next Sunday when we go to visit them.” my father said. He was being reasonable.
He wasn’t a mother.
“Turn this car around right now. Kissy isn’t a doll. Kissy is her baby. She can’t be worried about her baby all week. I’m not screwing around here, Ralph. Turn this station wagon around right now.” my mother ordered.
My father turned the car around.
The Christmas that Kissy waited for me in the living room lives on in my memory. It is the memory of my wants and needs and wishes and hopes being met. There was no disappointment. Kissy was everything I thought she’d be. I’ll never forget the sweet perfumed scent of my first whiff of her.
Christmases of course have changed. I grew up. I tried to make Christmas a magical time for my own children. I keep up a lot of the traditions even though they’ve grown up. I think the only thing I’ve cut back on is the baking.
Christmas has lost a lot of it’s magic for me.
Last year I was thinking that. I was on the computer while I was thinking that. I remembered back to my most perfect Christmas moment. It wasn’t the towering pile of gifts that Christmas when my father could afford to buy me anything. It wasn’t the new glittering bike or my very own television set.
I remembered my first sight of Kissy and I went in search of her again on my computer.
I found her on Ebay. I stared at her and touched the photo on my large screen monitor. I imagined the smell of her when she was new. Imagine! There are still Kissy dolls from the 1960’s complete in their boxes for sale on Ebay.
How sad. That they were never taken out of that box and loved. Those poor Kissys.
I could have bid on that doll. I could have owned her. In time for Christmas. But, I didn’t. It wouldn’t be the same. My Kissy was brought to me by Santa. On my Daddy’s orders. My mother helped me care for that Kissy. The neighborhood ladies provided for that Kissy. This Ebay Kissy wouldn’t be the same and my grown up self knew it.
I closed down the Ebay page with tears in my eyes. I had said no to myself just as I was about to hit the Buy It Now button. I can’t go back I realized. I can’t relive days gone by. Not even the best days.
Months later I was at the grocery store. I smiled at the tall metal cage holding big colorful bouncing balls for children. I picked one up and put it to my nose. I took a big whiff. I smiled again as I returned it to it’s place.
There’s nothing like the smell of a new toy!
Only a few check out lines were open. Hanaford really should do something about that. I got into a line and started emptying my cart. That’s when I noticed the sign. “Cashier in Training” it said.
I looked up at the young female cashier. She was brand new. First day on the job and dressed in a new red company polo shirt. I could still see the creases where it had been folded into a block. Her name tag was new also. It was a “My Name Is” sticker. She was too new to have an employee name tag yet.
For some reason I wanted to reach out and hug her.
“I’m pretty slow. If you’re in a hurry you’d be better off over there.” she said as she pointed to the check out next door.
“I’m not in a hurry.” I replied. “Everyone has a first day, right? Take your time. There is no rush.”
Her trainer stood at the end of the conveyor belt with a bag in his hand. His eyes were glazed over in boredom. This was the store I frequent all the time. I’ve always thought he was a poor choice to train new people. He’s hardly home up there because he’s so bored by his job.
Oh, well. Forget him.
The girl in the new red shirt beeped many items across her scanner. I noticed she was saving all the produce for last. She’s the type to save the hardest for last. I’m the type to get it out of the way first.
I found myself staring at her. I knew her from somewhere. I don’t know all that many sixteen year old people anymore. She caught me staring. She stared back between scanning the cookies and the yogurt.
She glanced at her trainer to make sure he was still asleep with his eyes open.
“Do we know each other?” she asked. I don’t know if she really recognized me or if it was only that she recognized my wondering gaze.
“I think we might.” I said in return “You’re too young to be friends with my children. But, you look very familiar to me.”
“Are you an actress?” she asked. “I see lots of theater. I think you look like someone in Drowsy Chaperone but you don’t have orange hair.”
“Yes! That was me! You’ve got a good eye. I look very different in that big red wig.” I laughed in answer.
“And, that huge old fashioned dress.” she laughed in return. “You were so funny!”
“Thank you.” I replied to the compliment.
She glanced down at her trainer. He was still in la la land.
She took a deep breath and started in on the produce. She punched in a number for bananas and charged me for nectarines. She fixed her mistake. Her hands started to tremble. Her nerves were shot from her first day.
“Take your time. There is no rush.” I repeated as I still stared at her trying to remember where I knew her from.
She felt victorious after scanning the tomatoes and the cucumbers correctly.
“Do you do theater?” I asked. “Maybe we did a show together when you were a little kid.” I suggested.
“No, I’ve never acted in my life. Is this parsley or cilantro?” she asked.
“Parsley.” I said as I noticed her hands shake slightly again. The useless trainer was staring at the water stain on the ceiling over his head.
I smiled at the sweet girl to give her some confidence. I took in her bright red shirt and her red and white gingham head band. The dimple in her left cheek when she smiled. The pure unblemished paleness of her skin. The course blondness of her over processed hair held back by the headband.
I laughed out loud.
“Now, I know who you remind of. And, why when I first saw you I just wanted to reach out and give you a hug. You look just like the doll I loved with all my heart when I was a little girl. Her name was Kissy and she looked just like you.” I spilled out.
The girl didn’t even think I was weird. She just laughed with me.
“Well, I have had one heck of a day. I guess I could use a hug right about now.” she said. She was serious as her blue eyes looked into mine. Even her eyes were the exact shade of blue as Kissy’s.
I reached over the conveyor belt and gave the girl a big hug. I patted her on the back. I patted to give her confidence and the strength to make it until 5 p.m. I used to pat Kissy’s back the same exact way. Back in the day I think I was looking for a burp in response.
The trainer woke up.
“Did you find everything you were looking for today?” he said to the air over my head.
“Yes, I found everything I was looking for today and more.” I said as I signed the credit card portion of the screen in front of me.
“This young lady is doing a terrific job.” I said as she handed me my receipt with a smile.
That’s when I noticed her name tag said “Krissy”.